Many people struggle to find “REAL HAPPINESS” so why is that?
Keeping happy and positive in today’s fast-paced world can be difficult. We are bombarded with negativity and fear, with the Media constantly feeding us bad news.
We are also made to feel inadequate and wanting with incessant advertising, mostly for things that we don’t need. Even if we don’t use mainstream media, with everyday life it can still be a challenge to keep uplifted.
Most of us make choices that are potentially harmful to our emotional and/or our physical well-being, and then find themselves very bad at coping well when faced with many of life’s experiences.
Their family or friends also experience pain and grief with the changes that have occurred to their loved ones or the grief of losing one.
Often how an experience will affect us emotionally can depend upon how we are able to focus our attention on the most salient features of the experience in question.
EVERYONE FEELS EMOTIONAL PAIN
By pain I mean that really deep emotional hurt you have carried with you for many years, from those incidents during childhood or teenage years or those as an adult, with challenges that have left you scarred and burning inside with such deep grief, pain and sadness, all of which can leave you angry and challenging yourself.
And we all have them !!
This is the best I have ever heard life explained
TWO WOLVES
An old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.
“One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
“The other is Good – It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replied – ” The one you feed “
Another catalyst is your Gut or Stomach : there are millions of neurons lining your gut almost as extensively as in your brain – do you think that might have something to do with your mood, your ‘intelligence’, and your overall health? Sometimes called the enteric nervous system, the stomach and intestines have a lot to say about how you feel, is so intelligent, in fact, that it houses entire networks of neurotransmitters and special proteins that tell the rest of the body what’s going down.
Did you also know that the gut produces more serotonin, the well-known happy hormone, than the brain does? 95% of all serotonin lives in the gut, not in the head. A big part of how we feel every day is truly related to our gut’s feeling, as it digests through the daily grind, our food as well as our food for thought.
Only you are the one who knows the depth of that intense pain you have locked away, the effect of which keeps coming back with more and more intensity as the years pass.
You have been to doctors, therapists, meditated, or had amazing clearings … you try to overcome that anger, that hurt, and try to rid yourself of it, only to find the same hurt appearing yet again at another stage in your life.
What can be done ????
- Daoud Arikian can clear the disturbances these deep traumas leave you with. During treatment he is able to reach your cellular level and determine the age you were, time of incident or trauma and release it. However on a psychological level, often you need to develop a personal acceptance.
- Jean Rudd works with Reiki to release emotional blockages, and
- Kean and Kathleen Buckley help by working with you through retreats; on a one to one basis or through group workshops.
Daoud Arikian :
Can work with and undo major traumas and physical imbalances which will continue to keep the old wounds appearing. His treatments will strengthen your physical and mental capacity to work deep at clearing these traumas.
Jean Rudd :
Reiki can help to release those hidden and forgotten traumas, which have been tucked into the corner of your mind. This does not mean the incident you experienced, but can not now remember, does not still affect you, quite the contrary, often the incident was locked away because it was too traumatic, and unfortunately the way you handle or respond to your emotions can be directly related to this incident.
Reiki will do so in a gentle manner, so that the traumas that have been so locked away, become less damaging.
Using the word “Hate” I cringe every time I hear somebody use this word in casual conversation. At work, it’s usually something like: “I hate my boss” or “I hate my job.”
Hate is a sick word, and it creates sickness in your body. Every time you use that word, you might as well be sticking a cancer cell in your body. Seriously. That is not saying that you’ve got to be sweetness and lovey-dovey about everything, but why pollute your brain by actually hating anything or anybody?
A lot of people think that they will be happy when they have got ‘something’ or achieved ‘something,’
So where should we look for happiness?
Why happiness often eludes. Invariably the answer can lay in what we already have, things like friends and family or a pet.
Also, It is not your role to make others happy, it is your role to keep yourself in balance. Pay attention to how you feel and practice self-empowering thoughts that align with who you really are, you will offer an example of thriving that will be of tremendous value to those who have the benefit of observing you.
Many benefits to being happy are that happier people tend to be healthier, live longer and earn more.
They also tend to be better at relationships and smile more of what psychologists call “Duchenne” or genuine smiles.
Happiness can be contagious and the benefits of pretending to be happy, often will make you happy; and in achieving that change in yourself tends to change your behavior for the better by being nicer or less hostile to those close to you, and that positive emotion can be highly contagious.
Happiness and being happy is different for each person however, making sure we take the time to enjoy the people in our lives and seeing the world we live in still as a wonderful place, not one the media continues to portray to us as being unsafe and toxic.
We are blessed to live a time and place where we can pick our career path, chose were we live and who we marry so many factors in being happy are your choices to make.
Conditions are things in your life you can’t change (age, race, sex) plus things you can (who you marry, how much money you have, where you live) but they are constant over periods of time or even your entire life.
Voluntary activities are the things you chose to do (exercise, learn a new skill) and they take conscious effort to stay in your life. These weigh more heavily on the ability to increase your happiness.
Kean and Kathleen work in conjunction with Daoud Arikian and Jean Rudd.
Kean and Kathleen Buckley :
Work with you on a totally different level again. They help you to see clearly the issues causing the problem and help you identify them.
In doing so they give you the tools to understand the incident for what it really is. Your experience and understanding of these emotions can become a grateful alliance of growth and enlightenment to your life.
With this new acceptance to the destructive and painful past events, there is no power left for this event to continue to cause grief.
It sounds so easy you say!! Well initially, it may be difficult to take that first step, however the results are rewarding when you succeed in having full control of your life again.
Call Kean or Kathleen on 07 5476 2626 / 0431 778 778
